Popular Nigerian singer and comedian Lawal Nasiru Bolaji, widely known as Nasboi, has stirred up engaging conversations on social media with a recent tweet that lays bare his outspoken dating standards. Nasboi, who is recognised for blending music, skits, and sharp-witted commentary on social issues, didn’t shy away from making his views clear—prompting both fans and critics to share their candid opinions on relationships, money, and gender expectations in contemporary Nigerian society.
Fresh off his 30-day quest to catch the attention of superstar Davido—a journey that saw him travel far and wide to make headlines—Nasboi has now shifted conversations to his personal life by commenting on the kind of partner he would want. According to his tweet, Nasboi revealed that, after years of hustling to secure his own financial future, he’s highly selective about the women he would consider dating and makes no apologies about this stance.
He explained that the energy and effort he has put into attaining financial stability are not to be taken lightly. For him, this success means having boundaries—and one of them is refusing to date women who are not financially independent. Nasboi’s direct approach has sparked both support and backlash, mirroring ongoing discussions around value, expectations, and equality in Nigerian relationships.
Nasboi’s Bold Message to Women: Why Financial Independence Matters
Renowned for his relatable content and sometimes controversial relationship advice, Nasboi made waves by explicitly stating on social media that women who are not financially buoyant should avoid seeking relationships with him. He referenced a prior incident, where he took Nollywood’s Aunty Ramota on a boat cruise, to reinforce his playful but assertive image.
In his tweet, he pleaded with ladies who aren’t doing well financially to “stay far away” from him. He emphasised that his preference is a reflection of his hard work and desire for a partnership based on equal footing. This statement, while humorous to some, resonated deeply with others who see similar patterns in their own aspirations or experiences.
How Fans Are Responding: Support, Criticism, and Humor
Nasboi’s comments have divided his fanbase and the wider Nigerian audience, with many male commenters echoing his sentiments. A number of his supporters said that, even if they haven’t “made it” yet, they still wouldn’t want to date women without some financial stability. One fan joked that any lady wanting to date him must have at least N1 million in her Opay account, reflecting a growing trend within some social circles to see relationships as partnerships between equals—especially against Nigeria’s challenging economic backdrop.
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Some users even extended the banter by saying they would “collect the money” from any woman upfront to be certain she actually isn’t broke, suggesting, albeit tongue-in-cheek, that financial proofs are becoming increasingly part of relationship dynamics among young Nigerians.
Mixed Reactions from Women: Double Standards, Marriage, and “Spec” Discourse
On the flip side, a number of women expressed their disapproval, highlighting the double standards often present in public discourse. Several pointed out that if a woman had made similar demands publicly—such as declaring she wouldn’t date broke men—the reaction might be far more hostile and judgmental.
Some went further to caution Nasboi, remarking that such high standards might keep him single longer than expected, even joking he could end up waiting until age 50 to find the “right one.” This particular narrative is not uncommon in Nigeria, where societal pressure to marry increases with age regardless of gender, and both men and women face scrutiny over the traits they seek in a lifelong partner.
According to fans and observers, Nasboi’s views reflect an ongoing conversation about what makes for a successful relationship in Nigeria today. It’s notable that the singer has a history of giving relationship advice and is known for his signature approach—he previously discussed the types of women men should avoid, sparking further dialogue among his followers.
For more details, readers can check Nasboi’s tweet here:
Social Media Responses: From Banter to Introspection
Nasboi’s tweet about his “spec”—Nigerian slang for an ideal partner—quickly became a hot topic online, with reactions coming in from all corners. Not only did fans respond in the comments, but the conversation expanded to TikTok, WhatsApp groups, and even mainstream blogs, reflecting the widespread appeal and controversy of the issue at hand.
Below are a few notable reactions:
@PraiseStephen5 shared:
“Stray bullet go just they hit person anyhow. God of hallelujah challenge visit me with wealth today.”
@O_fave07 shared:
“When I finally attain the level wey I dey work on, before any girl go talk to me or try to be friend, she go first drop like 1M for my Opay make she know say men mount.”
@Whotfisayo reacted:
“Make broke entitled women no even think of me. Amen.”
@RENNOTD commented:
“You’re getting married at 50.”
@highchart shared:
“If na woman tweet una for don break her neck.”
Nasboi’s Broader Relationship Tips: Who Should Men Avoid?
According to prior posts reported from Nasboi, he has used his platform not just for entertainment, but to advise his audience regarding relationships. On an earlier occasion, he warned men aiming for marriage to be wary of certain types of women, in his view—although this perspective, like his recent tweet, was met with mixed responses.
These candid takes often spark extended conversations online, with many agreeing with his points and others providing thoughtful counterarguments. In a country where economic realities, traditional values, and changing social expectations often intersect, such debates remain highly relevant and reflective of broader shifts in attitudes towards dating and partnership.
Local and Continental Context: Why the Debate Matters
Nasboi’s statements are especially relevant to a younger generation of Nigerians—and West Africans more broadly—negotiating life in cities marked by both opportunity and hardship. With rising unemployment, inflation, and a difficult job market, conversations about financial stability, gender roles, and relationship expectations are more than just banter on social media—they touch on very real anxieties faced by everyday people.
Yemi Ajayi, a Lagos-based relationship coach, tells us: “It’s not surprising that this narrative is gaining traction among Gen Z and Millennials in Nigeria. Many are under pressure to support not only themselves but extended family, which makes financial compatibility a bigger deal than ever.”
These tensions are echoed in other African countries as well. A 2023 survey by Afrobarometer indicated that financial insecurity ranks among the top reasons for relationship challenges and marital breakdowns across the continent.
Different Perspectives: Are Financial Standards Fair?
While Nasboi’s demand for financially stable partners might ring true for many striving for upward mobility, others caution that such standards risk worsening class divides or overlooking the value of companionship, mutual support, and love.
“It’s good that young people want more for themselves,” shares Abuja-based social commentator Blessing Okoye. “But there’s always a danger if relationships become entirely transactional. Balance is key.”
With Nigeria’s shifting gender norms, increasing employment among women, and a vibrant online culture for discussing issues openly, it’s clear that debates like this will remain at the forefront.
Looking Ahead: Will Attitudes Continue to Evolve?
Whether Nasboi’s position inspires more people to speak openly about their own dating standards or simply entertains, it raises important issues about respect, equality, and expectations in modern relationships.
As Nigerian and West African societies continue to evolve, and discussions about independence—financial and otherwise—become more mainstream, only time will reveal how far these expectations can or should go. Whether you agree with Nasboi’s viewpoint or not, the conversation highlights just how much values and priorities are shifting for love and partnership in the 21st century.
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